“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
I love how Martin talks about peace here. How having peace, can only be achieved by taking the time to truly understand one another. We as individuals are self focused, truly…there are studies shown to prove that 96% of our thoughts are about us…and even if those thoughts are about something or someone else…it is typically the effect that thing or individual has on us.
So how do we change this? How can we use our self centered thoughts to maintain or obtain peace within ourselves?
Well, there are two sides to every story…
On one hand:
I find that the people who are unable to find that peace within themselves or with others, do absolutely mirror this study of self centered thoughts. They are unable to find a common ground between others and them. They argue and argue until finally either the other gives up or their point is gotten across effectively. I used to be one of these people… so I know 100% how that is.
On the other hand:
A characteristic that I find in those who have a greater sense of peace about them, is the ability to have empathy for those whom they come into contact with. Being able to relate to one another is the key to being at peace with yourself and the world around you. This is a key component allows one to put themselves in the shoes of others to view the world or certain situation from their eyes.
I find that often when I am in an argument, and choose to actively take a look at things from the others side, I more often than not, can find a common understanding of why they feel the way they do. Now, this is an active practice of oneself. The next time you find yourself in a discussion that is heated or where you cannot seem to compromise, take a moment to actually put yourself in the other persons shoes… Like I had discussed long ago in an earlier blog, we must ask ourselves the right questions to find the right answers within us. Questions for this could look like: Why do they feel this way? What topic are they stuck on? Why is it that vital that they are right?
Try to work on that this week… Put yourself in others shoes, be the light and the comfort of peace to those around you.