There was a great quote I saw, it said:
“If you are sad, you are living in the past…If you are anxious, you are living in the future…but if you are at peace, you are living in the present.”
With lie number 2: Happiness comes when you have everything you want, we are considering a few things…
1. Living in the present and not the future. Being in the state of always wanting more and more, causes us to constantly be worried about where we are, who we are and what we are doing. Trust me, I personally have lived in this realm and it brought me nothing but stress.
Now, I am not saying that you cannot be ambitious, as we all know that I am a huge advocate of self growth and development. However, being impatient and lacking gratitude play huge roles in the inability to find true happiness. Like we have all heard…life is about finding balance. You can push hard, be the best person you can be, and hold yourself to a high standard, while at the same time being thankful for all that you have accomplished, who you are presently and the person you have become.
People say never to look back… but I tell you if you do not look back to see where you have been, how far you have come, where you are now, and be thankful for every moment…
You will never be satisfied.
2. Happiness comes from multiple practices of life…Notice how I didn’t say that happiness comes from many “things” in life. Feelings of happiness associated to materialistic things are fleeting, something new can only be new for so long, and then obviously we find ourselves the next best thing. Right?
Placing our happiness in “things” could never satisfy us because it isn’t truly coming from within us. This is the same for placing your happiness in the hands of others…no one, can truly make you happy, but you.
3. Ultimately, happiness is a choice.
You can choose to be happy despite everything that has happened to you, what you have in your pocket, or who you have in your personal circle.
I can tell you this…you will never have everything you want, not everyone will like you, and a perfect life doesn’t come without pain… It’s just fact. But you can have one thing…
You can choose that no matter what happens, there is always a way to get through it, to have gratitude for the things you DO have, not envy things you don’t, and hold onto those who matter, and learn to let go of those who never mattered anyway.
Happiness is a choice my friends.
So choose it.