I love this topic because it really hits home in my heart, as do many of these topics.
I am sure most of us growing up always believed this lie that life was supposed to be a certain way. The idea that we were supposed to follow a certain path, and anything outside of that path, well, that was the wrong way of doing things.
Naturally, we became the poster children of exactly how to do life incorrectly, or so it would seem.
I’m talking from trying all different stereo types, dating all sorts of the “wrong” people, making all of the bad and rebellious decisions, and always being “yes” driven people.
But here is the real kicker…all of that…is completely okay!
I know it may come as a surprise, but our journey in this life, is ours and ours alone.
We must learn to trust the process…Our process.
I think that hardest part of this issue with is that we tend to compare our journeys and experiences with those around us… like somehow their journey is better, or maybe their path is the one we should’ve taken.
But the beautiful thing is…You can’t. Simple as that.
Your life is not theirs, and you cannot compare anything that you do or have done to them.
On the other hand, you ARE able to take actions, ideas, and decisions that others have made, and positively apply them to your life. For example: Maybe you really admired how someone handled a certain situation and you find yourself in a similar one. You can absolutely use the tools you’ve learned from the other persons life to help you grow within your own.
They say that who you will be in 5 years is the sum of the books you read, the people you hangout with and the music you listen to. A mix of all these (and many minor ones), shaped by your actions, creates who you are.
My advice to you would be, to ensure that you are only putting the positive things into your life, as you may underestimate the influence they have on you.
With that, remember this:
To simply try and copy + paste someone else’s life into your own, is like coloring inside the lines in an art project.
We all know we are “supposed” to color it that way, but the picture is so much more beautiful when it comes from within our own minds… when WE choose the colors, when WE choose the design and when WE decide its meaning.
Our lives are meant to be messy…full of highs and lows, growing, learning and most of all love.
Trust in YOUR very unique and beautiful journey, because you are the art project, and you only get one.