I love this topic because it really hits home in my heart, as do many of these topics.

I am sure most of us growing up always believed this lie that life was supposed to be a certain way. The idea that we were supposed to follow a certain path, and anything outside of that path, well, that was the wrong way of doing things.

Naturally, we became the poster children of exactly how to do life incorrectly, or so it would seem.

I’m talking from trying all different stereo types, dating all sorts of the “wrong” people, making all of the bad and rebellious decisions, and always being “yes” driven people.

But here is the real kicker…all of that…is completely okay!

I know it may come as a surprise, but our journey in this life, is ours and ours alone.

We must learn to trust the process…Our process.

I think that hardest part of this issue with is that we tend to compare our journeys and experiences with those around us… like somehow their journey is better, or maybe their path is the one we should’ve taken.

But the beautiful thing is…You can’t. Simple as that.

Your life is not theirs, and you cannot compare anything that you do or have done to them.

On the other hand, you ARE able to take actions, ideas, and decisions that others have made, and positively apply them to your life. For example: Maybe you really admired how someone handled a certain situation and you find yourself in a similar one. You can absolutely use the tools you’ve learned from the other persons life to help you grow within your own.

They say that who you will be in 5 years is the sum of the books you read, the people you hangout with and the music you listen to.  A mix of all these (and many minor ones), shaped by your actions, creates who you are.

My advice to you would be, to ensure that you are only putting the positive things into your life, as you may underestimate the influence they have on you.

With that, remember this:

To simply try and copy + paste someone else’s life into your own, is like coloring inside the lines in an art project.

We all know we are “supposed” to color it that way, but the picture is so much more beautiful when it comes from within our own minds… when WE choose the colors, when WE choose the design and when WE decide its meaning.

Our lives are meant to be messy…full of highs and lows, growing, learning and most of all love.

Trust in YOUR very unique and beautiful journey, because you are the art project, and you only get one.


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14 thoughts on “Lie Number 4 – Life Is Supposed To Be A Certain Way

  1. This is astounding and I agree with what you wrote! Your work deserves to be out there so I will leave you some advice as to how. You can be the greatest artist but if you don’t knock on doors, no one will know you are here. So, here are some tips. But before I do tell, know blogging takes a lot of effort, time and hard work. Are you willing to put the time in? I’ve been blogging for over 4 years and just recently my blog basically flows without the effort from me. BUT! I worked by butt off.
    OK. So now the tips. Go to someone’s blog who gets a lot of likes on a post AND on a blog you like. Just don’t pick any blog. You will find that most people who like a post that YOU like will be of like mind with you or are interesting to you. This takes time. Click on the gravatars of each like, go to that blog, read their latest post, like it AND leave an intelligent Loving comment. Another way is to go into the reader and to put a tag in the search box that interests you so that posts with that tag appear. Click like on those posts and comment and if you are brave enough, follow those blogs not only in the reader but in a blog whose gravatars you are clicking on. Like I said it is a lot of work and takes dedication. When you express interest in someone else that person will be curious to follow your link to your blog. And hopefully will follow you. I hope this helps and I hope this is clear for you to understand. Much Love, ❤

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    1. Wow this just made my heart so full! Thank you for taking the time to share you knowledge with me! I am ready to put in the work because I truly believe in what I am writing about. I want to touch as many people as I can. I cannot begin to express the incredible feeling you have brought me today. I feel truly blessed. Thank you

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      1. You are most welcome. I truly wish you every good success. You are very talented. And yes I followed you. I am not on WP a lot lately like I used to be so the best way for me to see your work … and oh yes I believe in you too! … is for you to comment on a post of mine. I don’t mean to sound selfish but between my life and all I do and my huge following I’ve had to devise ways to be fair to my friends here. I really look forward in reading more of your Gift and in getting to know you too. Much Love 💖💖💖


  2. I looooooovvee this post. I can honestly say that I relate to this post. We really do invest a lot of our time comparing with others when we should focus on ourselves and to use their experience to better ourselves. Thank you so much for sharing! Definitely following to read more of your posts! 🙂


  3. Omg this is soo true. I was in a relationship for 7 years thinking we HAD to do the next steps because that is what my friends weee doing. Little did I know I was miserable. In a horrible relationship and not making myself happy. All because I thought that is what I was supposed to do. But that’s not my journey. Also, I had friends preaching said journey but it was like squeezing a circle into a triangle it just didn’t fit for my life. Everyone’s path is different and to be embraced

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    1. I am so glad you found the right path in your life!! That makes my heart so happy, there is nothing like being miserable in something you know is wrong. It’s the worst feeling, especially when you feel as if you can’t get out. You will like my next blog, it’s going up Friday.


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